So I just got out of a four year relationship...to be honest, I resigned my position and moved across the country when he earned a transfer. But once I rejoined him, he didn't want a t-girl anymore...wa waa waaaaa. Losing both my career and my romance, my life had been in a temporary upheaval. Now I have my old job, a new car and now a house (just renting but it feels good!) so things are back to normal. I have to buy new clothes, but really, did I need the excuse in the first place?
The silver lining is the chance to date again. Even at his best, he was never that affectionate or romantic. We'd been pretty much seperated for quite some time, so the rebound isn't an issue for me. It's simply time to start dating again.
People should be lucky enough to do what they love. These days you'll often find yourself taking your work home with you, so its all the more important! Since no transgendered woman is a stranger to creepy internet stalkers trying to track them down in the real world (do I have stories) I'll save where I work for our letters. But suffice it to say that I've been with the same company for many years and plan to stay there for many more to come, working with children's media. To that end I really need to date folks in the Los Angeles area. I'm not emotionally strong enough to handle a long distance relationship! :)
I'm 5'10 and weigh 130, which is really aggrevating because I want to be 120 again but can't seem to hold onto it since I just turned 30. My eyes are green and my hair is light brown, though I've dyed it auburn for years; I'm not sure if I should go back to dying, but a new lease on life might just call for a new color. I'm a preppy and tend to dress like a business executive, but I have been known to buy outfits that my SOs wanted to see me in. ;) I took Spanish in high school but I barely know any of it, except for what the speakers say when you're waiting in lines at Disneyland. (And yessiree, do I -love- Disneyland, have the pass and everything.)
I'm a very snuggly, touchy-feely type of girl. I like to hold hands and I love to kiss. Even at his best my ex was too introverted. I always longed for someone that loved life's speed bumps instead of suffering through the good parts.
I love staying at home, but I really like going out on the town too. I'll whine at you to wear something nice on occassion; I'll also force you to dance (white guys don't get a doctor's note) and see boring, expensive things like theater. The few girls that I've dated just seem to get it, but with guys its like pulling teeth. I also keep a camera in my purse, and you will get your photo taken often.
As for being trans, I changed years ago. I've been fulltime since 2003 and can't wait for my surgery. I'm here to find someone caring for a long term relationship, hopefully leading to marriage someday. In this situation, you can't really say yes to the folks that ask you out on the street without going into all the details; its just so much easier to be upfront online. When you're really lonely, I don't think there's a worse pain in the world than actually getting asked out...but having to make something up because it's less embarassing than explaining your past. The girls here know what I'm talking about. It's a bit like pouring lemon juice in the wound. :D I don't freak out if it comes up in conversation, I just try to answer any questions folks have, but unless someone's asking me out I virtually never discuss it and try to hide it to the best I'm able.
Oh, and I suppose that would be the last part to mention...I'm horrible about asking people out! The guys on here I think I'll be okay, but if you're a girl you'll probably have to initiate our conversation. I have a lot of lesbian friends at work and I know the stereotype of most never wanting to date a trans person, even if they're trans themselves. I stay away because I hate putting things on people. But I'm equally happy dating either in a sincere and monogamous (I'm looking at you fellas :P ) relationship. Nice to meet you all! I'm happy to share more photos.
